It’s important to have friends in your life that support your dreams and passions. Show people you are serious about taking your dreams to the next level, they should support your decision. If you have friends around who choose to be unsupportive and negative, it’s time for distance. Here are 3 questions that will help you identify a fake friend. In a world that’s already judgmental of people chasing their dreams, you don’t also need that from the people you’re closest to.
Are They Acknowledging The Problem?
Ask yourself if they are acknowledging the problem. Let your friend know that what they’re doing or saying is hurtful. If they’re constantly bringing you down, or telling you that they don’t believe in what you’re doing, that is a big red flag. Sometimes people are so used to negativity that they don’t notice when they’re doing it. Only self aware people can have mature and healthy friendships.
Should I cut them off or distance myself?
If they continue to treat you negatively, it’s time to decide if you want to distance yourself or completely cut them off. Understand that we have different types of friends for different kinds of reasons. Some friends are more surface level, others are for keeping close. It’s important to keep different kind of friends in different departments of your life. Decide if you should permanently cut them off, or if you just need emotional distance.
Am I asking from the wrong people?
Stop sharing information about your dreams to everyone. Only share your dreams with the people who cheer you on! Even better is to share them with someone who has been in your same position and is now successful! This will force you to want to keep going. If they can do it, you can too. It’s all about surrounding yourself with like minded people.
Lastly, you can’t change how people were raised, and surely can’t change their opinions on your life. Don’t let this bring you down. If anything their doubts should be your motivation! Their doubts should become the reason why you work as hard as you do. Pay attention to these 3 questions that will help you identify a fake friend. Show them you couldn’t care less, and you’re being the best version of you!
Here is an episode on my girl talk series on fake friends, check it out to get even more details! : https://youtu.be/sAkyYdmzML0