Make room for more fulfilling situations by learning how to set healthy boundaries and standards. Become unavailable to energy sucking, harmful, and parasitic behavior. We are responsible for our happiness. Be conscious in every moment and recognize the power of allowance. What are we allowing to influence us? How much are we responsible for the situations we are put in? Are we living in a reality in alignment with who we are? Accountability is critical to succeeding in this world. If something does not align with our standards, it is important to speak up and remove ourselves if the matter is causing conflict, externally or internally.
There is no harm done by respectfully voicing opinions and replacing oneself to better circumstances. When we are in the wrong, we must own up and correct our mistakes without placing the blame on others. Not everyone will understand, but it is not our responsibility to please everyone. Those that focus on themselves will not mind and most likely respect those who are firm with their standards. If anyone has an issue with a person focusing on a better path, they have some inner work to do. It is not our responsibility to wait for someone to realize their wrongdoings. All we can do is make it known what we do and do not stand for.
Master discernment. Analyze the circumstances and decide on the best way to deliver your intentions. Avoid over complicating matters. Express what you expect and don’t accept in a clear, precise way. When careful examination isn’t possible in moments that require fast reactions: remember to take a deep breath, focus on what points are needed to get across the most, and make eye contact while respectfully and intentionally saying what is most important. Save the in-depth tangents for later. If there is time for preparing a statement, stay silent before reacting. Not every thing needs to be addressed immediately. Meditate on intentions, brainstorm and write down personal standards, practice being vocal in moments of decision making, and last but not least; give thanks and praises when the situations at hand are beneficial.
If one is uncomfortable speaking up or struggling with eye contact: practice more on public speaking, watch videos of public speakers, research tips, and practice making eye contact while looking in the mirror. Make it a point to incorporate healthy boundaries in everyday life. Watch as the situations that we are faced with become more fulfilling and less frustrating. Not standing up for oneself can result in health issues and cause all sorts of imbalances. When conflicts are met, stand your ground while being respectful. It is possible to have a mature debate, it is not necessary to argue and cause disruption. When disrespected, calmly explain or make it known in a non verbal way how this is behavior that is not condoned. If the disrespectful party is non-compliant, it is time to move on and proceed to a better environment. Our mental health is more important than abusing the ego.
To conclude, as much as we set our own standards we must be mindful of the boundaries set by others. Are we being reasonable with others? Are we overstepping our rights? Are we taking advantage of the situation for selfish reasons? There is always room for improvement and making positive changes to benefit our mental health while also respecting others. This mindset is contagious and the more people who exercise their rights in a healthy way, the more the positive changes will spread and increase tenfold.