There comes an uncomfortable time where you don’t feel as connected with someone as you did before. These could be childhood friends, family, or significant others. Regardless of how they stand in your life, there is an odd feeling of not being on the same page anymore. You could feel like you don’t just “get” each other anymore, the conversations feel forced, or you get more easily annoyed by them. They feel like a different person, and you don’t want to make time for them anymore. Your feelings are completely valid, and you shouldn’t be ashamed of them! This just means that you are stepping into a new phase in your life! We are here to give you the top 3 signs you’re outgrowing them.
You’ve Entered A New Phase In Life
In life we go through many phases, and not all of our loved ones are going to be with us through every one of them. It’s a transition that we either have to do alone, or with a new set of people. For example, you could be in a phase where you are focusing on your career, and they’re in a phase where they’re focusing on self love. It’s not that you don’t love this person anymore, it’s simply that you two are incompatible at the moment. The best thing to do is to have some time apart.
You’re Forcing The Connection
Never force a connection to work, it only causes unnecessary friction. This can cause the two of you to become resentful. Every connection should flow naturally. Be understanding and respect each other’s space. Take some time apart, and if the two of you find that you gravitate back towards each other that’s great! In the meantime find people who are more aligned with what you’re focusing currently in your life. It will make your journey go smoothly with the support you deserve.
You Keep Revisiting The Past
A big factor in the top 3 signs you’re outgrowing them is that you keep thinking of how things used to be. If you find yourself in cycles of missing the past and not focusing on what’s in front of you, then it might be time to let it go. Appreciating the past is completely fine, but living in the past is not. People evolve and change, a lot of times we are completely different than who we were a year ago. Allow people to change, and also allow yourself to change.
It’s important to take note that just because you’re outgrowing someone doesn’t mean it’s time to cut them off. Some people require more emotional distance than others and the amount of love can be the same. Every situation requires a different reaction. The people you love deserve honest and efficient communication.
Interested in learning how to cope with outgrowing someone? Check out this episode in my Drive & Girl Talk series on my channel: https://youtu.be/sAkyYdmzML0